Sunday, 8 October 2017


Its been a minute and I have been thinking seriously about nothing specific but life and its diverse dimensions, twists and IRONIES. I choose to dwell on the ironies because that's exactly what most of us have majored and specialised in. At so many points in life, we are desperate for change,need to do things differently and improve our lives and those within our realms of influence. But the very things that we are running from are the very things we are thrusted to,the very baggage that we are avoiding is the very one that weighs us down and we end up being denied the opportunity to be better versions of ourselves

Paul in Romans 7:15-24 has highlighted the first irony.The very thing that we try to avoid is the very thing that we are thrusted to apparently. Its very rhetorical and not a very pretty picture that we always end up being tied to the very same things that we are running away from... the most precise definition of being beaten at our own game

"15.I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. "Romans 7:15 & 19

Irony number two:Magnifying things that are not vital and minimising things that are overly significant.

How we minimise; There is a game famously known as blame game. When we get confronted with our guilt, we blame others. We have built our lives on excuses. We are too full of excuses and we are now finding it just normal to thrive on excuses. Because there is always a person or a reason as to why something unexpected happens or backfires. That's why every time we embrace the blame attitude and play the blame game we blind ourselves and do not take time to learn from our mistakes.

How we magnify; So the trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise rather than saved by criticism.Mostly, people thrive on inflated pride. Thriving and being contented with false praise and affirmations. The desire for perfectionism robs us the opportunity to be the true us. And sooner than later we loose out because it does not hold on.

I think we find ourselves in a space where we are perpetually tickled by applause and disguised affirmations.We are scared of failure, and failure is a very vital aspect of a successful person. I also did not know how important failure was in shaping a person's life and laying a concrete foundation for their success until a mentor mentioned it to me. In her words, she authentically and effortlessly posits the fact that,"More growth comes from failure so long as one is willing to learn and move on. Failure is a catalyst for success and an indication that one is pushing the boundaries. "

Do not strife for perfectionism, do not agree to thrive and conform to false praise and affirmation. Cut off the desire to want to look good when a few failures can be a bridge to a more lasting and successful endeavour. Shortcuts look appealing but they last short.

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