Friday, 18 August 2017

BETTER LIVING



Life is exactly how you design it. But it is very critical that you realise your own worth and the worth of others.Be kind to yourself and be kind to others too. You haven't walked in another person's shoe, seen through their eyes or felt through their heart. Therefore, lay your judgements down. Stick to your lane and always remember, a little empathy goes along way.

1. FORGIVENESS

I once asked myself about the best therapy I could ever treat myself with. I felt that I was having too much to chew, too much in my mind to the point of distraction and lack of enthusiasm. I was always jaded, not out of work but out of too much thinking.You see I was thinking so much about people, and to be precise its people who I felt had wronged me, hurt me and owed me an apology.

 In search for my mental freedom and mental decluttering activities, I came across a plethora of scripts that were talking about forgiveness. And for once I felt that I was steadily departing from the chains that had imprisoned  me with hatred and tortured me with bitterness. Honestly I still can not merge the happiness that binds me all the time I forgive, let go and even pray and try to patch up things. And I am now learning that those who offend you do not need to apologise before you forgive them; The quicker you forgive the better you open up your heart and mind to Gods love and blessings.


The power of forgiveness is a therapy of its own, a freedom from so many types of slavery. And lately it is always one of my favourite choices, choosing to forgive. However, it is not easy, but still its worth it to ask God to help you.Its amazing how God softens our hearts when we are willing to forgive and even pray with for our offenders and even patch things up


The reasons as to why I choose to forgive is 1) God forgives me times infinity, so I have no reasons as to why I should not forgive others. 2) Forgiving someone does not not make them right or justify their doings. It releases them to God so that God can deal with them, a great lesson I learnt from the power of a praying woman by Stormie Omartian 3) Forgiving others does not make them right, but it makes you free



"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3;13


"For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Matthew 6;14-15


"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 

 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4;31-32


2. FEAR
As a young girl, I grew up fearing so many "petty" things. Sometimes I laugh out loud at myself when I remember being so scared to get into the house when everyone else was outside be it daytime claiming that I heard some funny noises. Back then, most of my fears were attributed to imagination and from the scary stories our house help used to narrate to us.

As a grown up person, I have different types of fears. The world has introduced me to novel fears which are so overwhelming and daunting. I am so scared of accidents, death, rejection and failure. Sometimes I am worn out worrying that something I fear is going to happen, however, at the back of my mind I still hold onto the conviction that I should not be tormented by fear.


Everyone wants to be safe and free from fear. In search of the fear antidotes, I have come to understand that we only need to fear God and nothing else. God also wants us to be liberated from all other types of fear.



"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41;10

Fear disappears in the presence of God. Therefore, pray and ask God to walk you past your your fears
I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."Psalms 34;4

3.FORWARD

You can not go forward while looking backwards. This reminds me of the famous school motto in my home area; "FORWARD EVER, BACKWARD NEVER." But if you must go forward, then you must take along your focus and stick to the present lane.

No one ever builds a great future by clinging onto the past. If you are to move forward and accomplish your purpose, then you have to be willing to allow the past have its place; THE PAST

A critical analysis into the past only births two things; 1) Things that never happened 2)Things that do not matter anymore; therefore we have no business clinging onto what is past. For you can not achieve and invest in new horizons while you have given your pas[t so much credit and made it conspicuous. Always put your best foot forward, dust up and keep on


"Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead."Philippians 3;13


4.FAMILY
Family always brings a sense of belonging. We all have a natural need to be part of a group where we are accepted, affirmed, appreciated and needed. And despite all the relationships in our circle, the family stands out to be the most promising in offering the aforementioned "automatically."

Just like any other relationship, family has things that need to be worked out. Sometimes we take it too obvious and for granted and with time it feels empty. In order to move forward as family, we have to get beyond the strains and learn to protect each other especially through prayer.


"Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand." Matthew 12;25

Always and always pray for your family.Your families are well covered and protected in prayer. Therefore, we have no reason as to why we should leave our family to chance.

5.FRIENDS

Who is/are your true friends? mmhhh Perhaps this is not the appropriate question. Are you a true and real friend to someone? Growing up, the most common advice I always received is "choose your friends wisely." I remember my English teacher always insisting on the cliche of show my your friend and I will show you who you are. To a great extent this resonates with me because I now realise that friends play very primal roles in shaping our lives, behaviours and attitudes.

I consider a friend as someone who will not leave you the way they met you. If your friend(s) do not edify you or help you to be a better version of you then the relationship is not worth investing in. Friends, just like a two way traffic should always be there for each other.


Friends will tell you the truth; black and white; because sugar coat for who? If something is bad with your friend, it is bad.Saying a good thing about something bad does not make it a tad better. And that said, friendships do not break down when the truth is spoken.  It is important to be yoked to people who can walk us past our failures without judging us and beating us up for our falls. We all have blind spots, and that is where friends come in handy to help us see the truth about lives.


Friends are always there through thick and thin, this is well exemplified by the kind of friendship that David and Jonathan had...1st Samuel 20


" A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." Proverbs 17;17


Lessons for the Week

1. There is no situation that is permanent in Life. Therefore, do not make permanent decisions based on temporary situations

2.Realise that you are your biggest critic. People do not see your faults, struggles and challenges like you see them. You are better than everyone else when it comes to evaluating your own life. You understand your potential, strength and abilities better than everyone else. Therefore, do not be limited by what other people think or impose on you.


3. The only way to heal is to let love flow in and through. You will always get and experience what you nurture.


Until next, Shalom 

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